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More Common Sex Myths Busted

More Common Sex Myths Busted

Jordan Vecchio Jordan Vecchio
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Many of us did not grow up getting the sex education we wanted, needed, and deserved from parents, teachers, and other trusted adults. So we ended up learning about sex from friends and resources on the internet.

 

Unfortunately, information from friends and the internet is not always accurate. And when we’re young and inexperienced, it can be tough to distinguish sexual myths from facts.

 

When we learn about sex from unreliable sources or personal trial-and-error, we may be exposed to myths about sex and believe they are true. And, sometimes, we end up retelling these myths. 

 

You are not alone if you once believed and even repeated things that you later learned were not true. The important thing is once you know how to discern myth from truth, you stick to the truth and do your best to expose yourself to trustworthy information.

 

We already took a look at some common sex myths. Here are a few more.

 

Does Vaginal Lubrication Equal Desire or Consent?

The truth is vaginal lubrication does not always equal desire or consent because of arousal non-concordance. Wetness does not necessarily mean a person wants to have sex. And lack of wetness does not mean a person is not aroused or into the action.

 

In other words, a person can be wet and not turned on, and conversely, a person can be turned on and not wet. This is why it is crucial to establish consent. And why lube is the best addition you can make to your sex life.

 

While this myth focuses on vaginal lubrication, it is good to note that arousal non-concordance applies to penises, too. A person can be aroused and not experience an erection or have an erection without desiring or consenting to sex.

 

Erections and vaginal lubrication are just indicators of blood flow and not signals of a person’s intent, consent, or mental or emotional state.

 

Is the Penis a Muscle?

There is a myth out there that the penis is a muscle. But the penis itself is not a muscle, nor does it contain any muscles. Thankfully, it can’t be bulked up or overused like a bicep.

 

The penis is primarily composed of spongy tissue structures called the corpora cavernosa and the corpus spongiosum. Also present in the penis are nerves, blood vessels, and fascia.

 

There are muscles located around the root of the penis that support erections and aid in expelling ejaculate fluid and urine.

 

The anatomy and functionality of the penis are actually quite fascinating. And it's perfectly designed for primary sexual and urination functions, with no weight lifting required.

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Is Virginity Real?

The truth is that virginity is not a status based on the presence of a hymen or the experience or inexperience of an event. Rather, it is a socially-constructed concept. This one is a big one. And when we deconstruct it, we realize it is often rooted in religion-based shame and misogyny, not fact.

 

When it comes to sex myths, this is the one that most of us actually believe.

 

Most of us were taught that a person who has not had penis-in-vagina (PIV) intercourse is a virgin. And anyone who has had PIV intercourse is no longer a virgin. And the first time a person has PIV sex is the event during which a person loses their virginity.

 

But what about the people who don’t have PIV sex at all? Do other sexual activities count? If so, which ones? When we think about these questions, the rigid definitions around virginity lose their significance.

 

Alternatively, we could think of our first sexual experiences as gradual, not a one-time thing. And what if we stopped saying that a person “lost” something and started using more inclusive, sex-positive, and affirming language. For example, what if we talked about someone experiencing their sexual debut instead?

 

Do Women Hate Porn?

The idea that all women hate all porn is a myth based on an erroneous understanding of women’s sexuality and a narrow view of porn. The truth about women and porn is more interesting and complex.

 

Studies suggest that the issues most women have with porn are related to, first, the depictions of women and sex in a lot of mainstream porn and, second, the behind-the-scenes production practices. The bottom line is women don’t want to view or support porn that harms people on or off-screen.

 

When a woman has a negative reaction to their partner using porn, it is often because the partner is compulsively consuming porn to the point that it becomes disruptive to their life and/or the relationship. In this case, her reaction is not about the porn but the partner’s behavior.

 

The truth is many women actually enjoy watching some types of porn. Further, consuming porn and other erotica can benefit women’s sexual pleasure by boosting arousal, desire, and orgasm. And several amazing women are out there creating porn and different types of erotica. Here are one, two, and three of the best in the business.

There you have it, four more common sex myths busted. Now go out there and spread some love and truth.

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