What is Mutual Masturbation?
Welcome to partner pleasure school. In today’s lesson, we will be discussing mutual masturbation including tips to initiate, different positions, and how to take things to the next level for maximum mutual pleasure.
To begin, we have to understand the many forms that mutual masturbation can take. In essence, mutual masturbation happens when two or more parties masturbate in each other's presence. Hot, we know. It's a huge turn on for most people. The best part about it is that it can happen in so many different places, whether you are in the same room as a partner, alongside each other, or across the world.
First things first, consent is the hottest thing in town
While most people enjoy mutual masturbation, it is essential to have a discussion with your partner/partners about needs, boundaries, and whether or not it is something that they are even interested in or ready for. Masturbation is vulnerable and not everyone has experience or comfort with solo sex. In order to get the most out of doing it with a partner, it is important that all parties feel safe and comfortable with both each other and themselves.
With that being said, don’t overthink it
Mutual masturbation is all about learning what your partner likes and vice versa. One of the easiest ways to initiate a conversation about trying it is to ask your partner questions including, “Can I show you what I like?” “Can we try only touching ourselves?” or if you’re on the phone or video chat, “Can I show you how much I miss you?” You can even send them an article explaining mutual masturbation and ask them, “What do you think about this?”
Ease into it gradually
If it is your first time, consider what will make you and your partner feel most comfortable. Maybe dimming the lights and burning candles can help get you into the mood. You can also stay as clothed as you like and warm up by taking your clothes off gradually.
Keep it low pressure (no pun intended)
Take the pressure off of bringing yourself to orgasm. Slow it down and allow yourself to enjoy each and every part of the experience. Pay attention to the sensations, sounds, and scents. No detail is too small, in fact, most details are erotic as f*#k. Feel open to incorporating dirty talk, sex toys, lube, and porn into your experience. You can even make a game out of it by incorporating one or two “rules” such as what your partner can or cannot touch or say.
All in all, make it your own
Mutual masturbation is about enhancing the connection between you and your partner(s). It can be done side-by-side, face-to-face, on the couch, on your partner, on video chat, or on a phone call. You can hump a pillow, lie face down, use your hand, or use a toy. Let your creativity shine! As long as you are communicating openly and honestly about your needs and wants, you are guaranteed to have a great time.
